Being Present

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The Way You Look Tonight in My Best Friend’s Wedding

In the moment

In the moment

Living in the moment, just like Julia Roberts’s and Dermot Mulroney’s character portray in this scene of “My Best Friend’s Wedding” show the importance of the then and now in life.  This blog is about the importance of being in the presence!

Today’s world, today’s way of life is a complete contrast to that of the past.  We are constantly worried about the time, about the competition, and living the future.  What happened to enjoying the present, the right now?  We are constantly striving to secure happiness for the future that we fail to enjoy what we have in front of us.

As a kid growing up surrounded by a fast paced world, where gadgets and technology kind of has a control on me.  I’m not afraid to say it!  Let’s be real, we all constantly check our phones, text, Instagram pictures, checking in on Four Square, updating our Facebook status, tweeting a friend , etc.  It is as if we couldn’t survive without them!  Through the years I have found various outlets where I am physically detached from this crazy world; whether it’s ballet, piano, writing, or running.  I have subconsciously felt the need to have that balance between technology and being present.  But it wasn’t till a couple months ago that i really witnessed and realized the extent of how much technology has hindered our ability to be mentally present anymore.

After having my first smartphone (of course the iPhone),  was it then did I notice this absence of myself and more obviously of others.  My personal moment was at a Jean-Paul Gaultier fashion exhibition at the de Young Museum.  I was vigorously taking pictures with my phone, whizzing through the rooms, until i was stopped by a conversation I overheard.  The man next to me was discussing about the intricate detailing of one of JPG’s collection pieces, of how beautifully crafted the gown transitioned from harsh denim jean to delicate goose feather.  I slowly put my phone down and it wasn’t till then did i start seeing each piece in a new light.  My moment of “Awe” when observing others was also pretty recent, it was at a restaurant I went to with my family in San Francisco.  As we were waiting for our meal, I was looking around this small restaurant only to see that a couple a table away eating a meal together.  The odd thing about them was the fact that they both were looking at their iPhone and eating dinner, not making any eye contact with one another, not talking to one another.  I thought maybe it was just that couple, but after that incident did I begin to notice this as a trend with all ages.

Society was no longer interacting with one another face to face, but phone to phone.

Yes, of course I have noticed it before, but it has gotten progressively worse.  Yes, I know i am typing this blog on the internet and on a online blog, but I am not suggesting to completely cut off Internet from your life or to throw away all your technology away.  Look at me; I love technology and what it has down to progress human’s daily life and I love the Internet!  All I am saying is to just set some time in your day, in your week, in your life to put the phones away, unplug yourself, and just really enjoy the company of those around you, soak in the environment, and taste the food (without Instagramming it)!!  Just enjoy some time to soak in the moment while it is going on then and now!  Trust me, it will make it even more memorable.

Share your opinions, thoughts, and maybe you have some stories!  Also if you have any suggestions about what topic I should write next, leave them down beeelllooowww.  Now for the COMMENT PART!

See you on the other side. xoxo

Decisions

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Bastille – Flaws (Acoustic)

We are faced with decisions everyday.  There are endless decisions we make each day, each of which have their own ripple effect.  There are some choices we make in life that may directly affect us as individuals, the loved ones around us, or indirectly to the passerby who crosses our path on the way to the coffee house.  No matter how you see it, the decisions we make in our lives affect someone or something.

As we get older, the decisions become more difficult, more personal, and we are just more aware of their consequences.  We go from picking which Popsicle we want to choosing which type of life we want to leave.  After graduating college there are many life changing decisions you must make.  You are creating a new path for yourself, the world sees us as adults with our heads on straight.  There are a few of us that manage to succeed through college, who have that straight vision of exactly what we want in life, and in the end achieve the goals they set out with.  I congratulate those who are able to achieve this, that is what I want for myself.  But like some of us, I am not fortunate to have discovered myself so early on and so quickly.  These are the decisions that take each individual on a different path.  You begin to see some friends move forward in life and those that face life barriers that may pull them back.

The sheer reality is that life is like a game, each move you make determines a different outcome.  If you make the wrong move, your life can take a different turn, this does not necessarily mean for the worse.  Like a game, sometimes you are forced in making an unplanned move that can lead to a short cut to the original goal or better a totally new discovery.

I think that is what I am hoping for, an unexpected win in life.  That all my unexpected twists and turns, all my life decisions (both good and bad) will inadvertently lead me to some sort of fulfillment in life.

What will life bring you?  Tell me stories about decisions that have let to an unexpected turn in your life! I’d love to hear your stories.

See you on the other side.

A New Beginning

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Another Love – Tom Odell

As a fresh college graduate, I am bombarded with questions and inquiries about my life after college.  It has been a mere 3 days since I have been home and I am overwhelmed with emotions and questions for myself about this new path I am beginning to pave for myself.  I am conflicted to get a job as soon as I can just because it is the norm, but also to help my family financially.  At the same time I am torn to go out and explore the world while I am young, as many those older than I have heavily suggested.  But then you are conflicted of how you can fund these travels without a well paying job or without the support of your parent’s money.  This also brings the conflict of if you have loans like me, you want to pay them off before the interest starts accruing.

For me the biggest dilemma I am personally facing is one internally.  The dilemma of what is is that I actually want to do with myself and what career path do I take.  Do I follow with my heart or do I go what my head feels is right.  Then there are people who advice that you don’t really know what you want till you try all those you are interested in, just apply yourself to everything.  After reading many biographical articles about successful people, what I have taken from them is that it takes years and many jobs till they eventually land the ideal job they are currently at.  I want that satisfaction, that passion and love from my job, I want that reassurance of happiness.

I guess that’s what we all are really striving for… HAPPINESS.

We live in a society that is surrounded by social media that has become this 24/7 bragging platform.  Whether it is a Tweet, a Facebook status, a picture on Instagram, or a 6 second Vine video, these all have become out own personal way of telling the world, “look at what I have accomplished”   I am not saying this is a bad thing, we have just become more aware of the piling competition that is around us.  We have become a more dog-eat-dog world than we once were.

It’s time for a new beginning, to take a step out of this chaotic world and look at myself.   This is something that is difficult and I have tried and repeatedly fail to go through with this, but it’s time for new beginnings, it is time to find another love for myself.

So if this is your cup of tea, join me on this journey in search of my own happiness.

See you on the other side .